When Tara suggested a restaurant in midtown Manhattan, Stuart was into it: "Okay cool, my hotel is super close to there," he messaged back. This guy seemed nice and normal and safe and she was down for a fun night out with a visiting stranger, but she drew a hard line when it came to sex on the first date. "I thought that was the expectation." These kinds of conflicting agendas will be familiar to anyone who’s done much Tindering or Bumbling or Ok Cupiding, where one person’s one-night stand is another person’s chance at finding The One. This was Ohlala, and Stuart had already agreed to pay Tara 0 for their date.